Free Relationship Quiz - Committed Couples

By Glenn Cohen

This free committed couple’s quiz is designed to help you and your partner to assess your relationship. The quiz will assist you to identify problem areas such as communication, emotional reactivity, correctly arguing, the level of romance and your sexual relationship.
Thank you for your interest in taking the Committed Couples relationship assessment quiz. Please try to be objective and honest with yourself. I recommend asking close friends and family members for their opinions as well.
Rating Scale: Rate each item on a scale from 0 to 10.
8 - 10 – Good - This area of our relationship is strong and is an asset to us.
5 - 7 - OK - This area needs work and could create issues or problems, but most likely would not sabotage our relationship.
0 - 4 - Needs Work -This area needs serious attention and could interfere with the success of our relationship.
1- We Have Shared our Vision of the Relationship We have discussed the dreams and expectations we both have for our relationship and our future. We have been honest and shared our inner self, our fears, our unrealistic expectations and our fantasies. We both are present, listen and support each otherwhen we share all of these feelings and thoughts.We are both enthusiastic about our shared visionand living our lives as Partners for Life __________ - Enter your score: 0 – 10
2 – We Have Assessed Our RelationshipWe make the effort to be authentic and share our inner self with each other.We encourage each other to talk honestly about our convictions and are able to solve oursolvable problems in a safe and calm manner.We turn towards each other and not away.We love and accept each other unconditionally.__________ - Enter your score: 0 – 10
3 – We Know How to HaveSuccessful ConversationsWe take turns speaking and set time limits.We have soft startup, listen to each other, mirror and validate each others feelings and thoughts.We find common ground and knowhow to achieve a win-win agreement for us.We have safe and calm conversations.__________ - Enter your score: 0 – 10
4 – We Know How to Argue The Right WayWe know the right and wrong time to start a conversation.We know how to have a soft startup and turn a criticism to a complaint and then into a request.We know have to recognize when our partner isfeeling flooded and how to have successful repair attempts.We take personal responsibility for our actionsand show empathy and say we are sorry and I love you.__________ - Enter your score: 0 – 10
5 – We Have Emotional Integrity and SafetyWe have resolved emotional childhood woundsand know how to manage our emotions.We keep the relationship space safe and never criticize or throw verbal darts at each other.We always tell the truth, even if it hurts and follow through on the promises we make. We accept radical personal responsibility to the relationship and for all of our actions__________ - Enter your score: 0 – 10
6 – We Manage Reactivity in Our RelationshipWe recognize when we are being reactive and can differentiate between our feelings and reactions.We know how our reactions affect our partner.We know how to soothe ourselves when we are reactive We know how to safely make a request for a behavior change from our partner.__________ - Enter your score: 0 – 10
7 – We Have Romance in Our Relationship We know the principles of Romance.We know how our Partner wants to be cared for. We enjoy giving little surprises and giftsto each other on a regular basis.We know our partners need and wantsand get joy and pleasure from satisfying them.We are inspired to make our partner smile everyday.__________ - Enter your score: 0 – 10
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8 – We Understand Each Others Emotional Bank AccountWe have told each other how to make deposits.We have told each other what causes withdrawals.We are both committed to make one deposit a day.We have bank holidays and know how to forgive.We have made a list of activities we cando together to make deposits into our Relationship bank account__________ - Enter your score: 0 – 10
9 – We Have Developed a Deep ConnectionWe know how to listen, mirror, and validate each other.We empathize, respect and appreciate each other.We allow our partner to be their true selvesWe acknowledge and champion each other. We give unconditional support and inspire each other and keep the relationship space sacred.__________ - Enter your score: 0 – 10
10 – We Have a Fulfilling Sexual RelationshipWe tell each other our needs and wishes andwe are inspired to fulfill them for each other.We take the time to assist each other equallyto fully enjoy the experience together.We have deep intimacy before sex.We know how to gently and safelyrequest a sexual behavior change.__________ - Enter your score: 0 – 10
__________ - Your Total Review Score
If your total score is between:
80 -100: Green light - Congratulations, you and your partner have developed a Life Partnership that you are enjoying.
50 - 79: Yellow light - You and your partner have areas that need to be worked on. I suggest sitting down together and develop a relationship plan to address the areas that scored low.
0 - 49: RED LIGHT - Your relationship could potentially be in serious trouble. I suggest you both commit to take a serious look at the problem areas and do what ever it takes to make the relationship better.
So, Are you ready to be:
"Best Friends during the DayLovers at Night andPartners for Life” ©
Glenn Cohen©“I-TO-WE” Relationship Coaching© / www.i-to-we-relationship-coaching.com